How to Get Along With People

How To Get Along With People

Listen to them. People absolutely won't listen to you, if you didn't listen to them. True listening means with a mind that's willing to be changed, and without cutting them off.

Be friendly. Use a friendly tone of voice, use friendly words and phrases, use friendly facial expressions, and use friendly body posture. Use a moderate volume only, and lower it even more when others raise their voice. Think friendly thoughts!

Remember the relationship - damaging it to get what you want now, makes it harder to get want you want in the future. Be hard on the problem, not on the people.

Have nothing to do with gossip. It hurts everyone involved, and lowers your “trustworthy quotient”.

Keep your promises! Show that you can be trusted by keeping your promises, no matter what! (Trust makes it easier to get along with people, and to get what you want in the future). So think very carefully before promising anything.


Now here’s the oddity: no matter what the other party does, by acting in this way regularly you’ll become more effective and gain higher self-esteem. That’s what right thinking and right action does.

By Jay Walker

Working out the brain, improving learning disabilities

One way to improve learning disabilities or poor recollection (older folks) is to work out the brain, in an organized, systemic, challenging, and appropriate (appropriate to ability) manner.

There's an increasing amount of evidence that this method works very well. Here's providers of some of these computer-based services:

• Posit Science (Studies show this prgram works). Via internet. $500 USD.
• Brain Builder 3.0 (Advanced Brain Technologies). CD for computer. $50 USD. I personally recommend this as working. However, I suggest you modify the program by turning down the sound or by closing your eyes, in order to separately strengthen your weak area.
• Nintendo - Brain Age (Washington Post story here). $150 USD (DS-Lite system), $20 game (@ WalMart for both). Developed by Ryuta Kawashima, a Japanese neurologist. Seems promising, based on good principles of brain cognitive improvement.

These are systems or training that improves underlying cognitive skills, rather than "techniques" that may improve effectiveness but leave the impairment "untreated" if you will. The systems named above improve the underlying, so that techniques will go even farther. (Or not, learning and practicing a "technique" may have less effect than improving the underlying condition).

Motorized bikes

These are sites with a variety of gas or electric motors for bikes, or motorized bikes:

bikemotor.com This is a roller type gas drive system, using several of either common 2 or 4 cycle motors. Reasonable prices, good variety, claim can retrofit any bike or offer several reasonably-priced models. DOT street legal.

Bionx.ca Electric bikes from Quebec, about $1,300. Regenerative technology; price doesn't include the bike.

bikeengines.com This set up was written about in Popular Mechanics here and also a pretty good blogger review, here. It has a superior belt-drive system (which allows for knobby tires), and prices for the motors and kits are generally below $600 - $700 (depending upon motor selected).